Need an attitude adjustment? How about a confidence boost? You’ve heard the saying “Altitude of Gratitude“; and when it comes to getting what you want and achieving the success you desire, your attitude is the foundation on which to build the life you want. Additionally, your self-confidence will be what empowers you to step into action during those times in life that seem to be the most challenging and overwhelmingly intimidating.
Your confidence develops while you’re experiencing life. When was the last time you remember holding your breath? If you can’t remember, you need to ask yourself if you’re worthy of the outcome your actions will bring. My professional experience has given me the perspective that so many of us work hard and take actions that on the outside indicate we should be achieving our goals easily, but we continually fall short of reaching them due to a lack of confidence and sense of worthiness.
Self-confidence and self-worth are in most instances interchangeable, but in fact there is one element that differentiates the two. That element is value. The value we hold of ourselves will impact our self-worth.
Your perspective of self is what will be used as a magnet to what you will receive in life. This results in your self-worth being one of the most essential elements of how you grow your self-confidence. Possess a belief in your abilities and begin considering yourself deserving of what you wait.
Go ahead: visualize, use affirmations, take pride in all you do. Unless you truly like who you are while embracing 100% that you’re deserving of the best, you may not Improve your confidence or your abundance.
Take a few minutes and learn if you need an attitude adjustment.
- When facing a negative situation or outcome, how do you react?
a) Do you feel yourself getting heavy and sluggish? Do you doubt yourself?
b) Do you jump right in and try to figure out to make things better?
If you chose (a), then you are “value challenged“–which results in self-sabotage and not achieving all you want in life.
2. When someone pays you a compliment for a job well done, how do you react?
a) You say “thank you” and gladly move on to the next task at hand.
b) You response with “Oh, it was nothing,” with a caveat that implies you could’ve done it better “if only” you did X, Y and Z.
If your choice was (b), then you again are “value challenged,” If you chose both 1 (a) and 2 (b), then you are in a “value crisis.” And there is no time like the present to jump in and begin working on your personal value, self-confidence and self-worth.
Here are two tips to improve your self-worth, but you need to remember that your self-worth is supported by how well you treat yourself. The following two elements focus on improving your perspective of self-value.
Your negative self-talk is one of the strongest acts you can do to devalue your perspective of self. Making fun of yourself and continuously being critical doesn’t help either. We all make errors in life, and jumping in too quickly to judge yourself when you do is your opportunity for making a shift in what your inner voice is telling you to immediately begin to increase your value.
When you notice the quick jump happen, shift your focus to rephrasing the thought from a positive statement. It will be time consuming in the beginning, but be persistent and in no time it will be second nature to think positively first without judgment.
Lacking belief in your skills is reflected in your actions and responses–or, dare I say, your LACK of action! When you do not believe in yourself, your confidence is negatively affected and therefore you are too nervous to actually step into taking any action.
You can begin to make a shift with your value, self-worth and self-confidence by addressing those things that scare you. An example might be if you’re more of a wall flower at social gatherings, set a goal of talking to one new person. Then the next social gathering, set a goal of two new people, etc. By building slowly, you will increase your confidence.
By making a change to your personal value, you will immediately begin to improve your self-worth, which by default will improve your self-confidence. Instead of a downward spiral, you’ll begin to notice that life is spiraling upward and will take on the feelings of encouragement and abundance.
Your attitude adjustment is never truly complete, and you will always need to be addressing it, improving on it and growing from it. Remember, nothing happens overnight, and it takes a while to change old habits. Continue and be persistent, and you’ll ultimately succeed.