Does this sound familiar?
”There was a week this year when going in to work was like walking on egg shells. I’d go home every day drained of energy, filled with mixed emotions and wanting to call it an early night and crawl into bed.”
How long did it take for your mood to lift? For your emotions to begin to settle? Did you do some serious self-talk, like telling yourself to focus on something else? Think back to the last time you were really down or angry. Very likely you will recall that it slowed you down or even emotionally crippled you for a period of time, even weeks possibly. Is there a quick fix to re-setting your emotional state?
When you are feeling upset, it seems incredibly challenging to think happier thoughts and to feel love and joy. And wherever you look, it seems like you are attracting more of the same. Our emotions impact our thoughts. Esther and Jerry Hicks introduced the idea of “Moving Up Your Emotional Scale” in Ask and It Is Given (2005). The Emotional Scale invites you to:
- Be aware of your current emotional state.
- Take small steps to get to better-feeling thoughts.
- Gain empowerment, control and connection.
- Experience the things you desire.
According to the Hicks, it’s simple; there are really only two emotions. You have the good feelings and the bad feelings: good (empowerment) is positive and the fullest state of connection (eg., joy, love, appreciation, freedom, or knowledge), while bad (disempowerment) is disconnection, despair, grief, fear, or depression and disconnection. The Hicks say we can always make a conscious choice to constantly up our emotions and move on to better emotions.
Here’s how to practice Moving Up Your Emotional Scale.
- Identify where you are in the emotional scale.
- Make the decision to reach for an improved emotion (i.e., go up your emotional scale).
Your Emotional Scale looks something like this:
- Positive Expectation/Belief
Note: The Emotional Scale uses labels for your emotions which are not absolutely accurate for every person who feels the emotion; as such, the scale should be used as a guideline.
The Hicks compare the Emotional Scale to a gauge like that for your car’s gas tank, so the higher your emotion or emotional set point, the fuller your well-being.
Reach for “Relief”
Think any better-feeling thought that you have access to right now. Evaluate whether you feel any relief.
- Positive Expectation gives you a feeling of relief from pessimism.
- Hopefulness gives you relief from pessimism.
- “Overwhelment” gives you relief from blame.
- Blame gives you relief from anger.
- Rage gives you relief from depression.
Acknowledge your chosen thought feels better. Regain empowerment and control, and be more in connection with who you really are.
Here’s an example in action:
Let’s say you’re so anxious that you have trouble breathing. Try reaching for anger, perhaps by creating the thought, “I’m mad that I’m feeling so anxious.” And in the middle of your angry thought, you might notice you no longer have trouble breathing.
There’s great power in being able to tell yourself, “Self, don’t worry. You don’t need to jump from depressed to ecstatic in one big leap. Just go the next emotion up.” (Once there you can, of course, always choose to keep working your way up.)
One element society is beginning to understand and accept is we humans are emotional beings and that our emotions dictate our vibrational frequency in any given moment. You will attract things into your experience that match the dominant vibration you are giving out. The next time you are heading home from work and not feeling 100%, stop and notice where you are on the Emotional Scale. Ask yourself if this is what you want to attract more of in your life. If the answer is no, then move on up until you are in a place of desiring more of the same. Is it easy? No. But with practice and conscious effort it will be allow a more joyful experience.
Hicks, Esther & Hicks, Jerry (2005). Ask and It Is Given.